After a conversation we had in
class about Buddhist’s views on marriage and love I decided to write a blog
post about it. I think the idea of not getting attached/dependent to/on someone
would be difficult. I think that is part of a good marriage, being able to rely
on someone else. As I am googling “Marriage in Buddhism” I see a link for
“Buddhist Dating.” I clicked on it and realized that there is a Buddhist dating
site, just like Christian-mingle or match.com. For some reason this lead to
wondering if as a true Buddhist would dating have different “rules” or
“expectations”? I came across this website (link below) called
If the Buddha Gave Dating Tips. This
website gives “Buddha advice” and explains them in what the author calls modern
terms. It lists things like “do whatever it takes to leave on good terms”,
“Equality is based on shared values, shard communication, and shared
self-respect”, “in equal relationships both people are challenged to grow and
evolve together”, “The only constant is change”,
“We must be know and accept who we are fully
before we enter a relationship, lest we end up in co-dependency. When two whole
people join in a supportive relationship, the results can be magical”, and “If
we believe and live as already-full beings, we don’t look to others to fulfill
us.” Through this research I have realized that there are dating sites for
everything. A lot of the websites I found were trying to be comical about
Buddhist dating and the rules that Buddha might have. The third link listed
below was by far my favorite and probably the most helpful link. It was more on
a serious note and was actually talking about things that applied to the rules
that might go along with Buddhism in a dating situation. Things like: “Do not
indulge in sexual misconduct”, “living the precepts”, and specific sexual
issues (Marriage, homosexuality, and desire).
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